Daily affirmations are commonly recommended in books, videos and courses associated with the Law of Attraction and Manifesting. The advice is that you verbally affirm your goals as if you have already accomplished them. Many people try daily affirmations for a period and then give up when the goals don’t actually come to fruition quickly enough for them.
Why do daily affirmations commonly fail? It is because that without exception every thought you have, whether positive or negative, is an affirmation. For example if you spend a relatively short period each day verbalising, “I am wealthy,” but a then for a greater part of the day re-affirm by your thoughts a state of having a lack of wealth, you will not make a breakthrough.
The concept of trying to condition yourself to think in new ways is sound, but verbal affirmations for a short period each day are not the best way to accomplish a change.
If you want to make some big changes in your life, you will need to change your habitual thoughts which can lead to a change in your behavior.
If you are stuck in your current situation and have made unsuccessful attempts to grow into an indentity that you really want to achieve, your daily thoughts are continuing to reinforce your old role. Many people who want to take this leap can’t seem to do it, and one reason is that they spend too many hours per week reinforcing their old identity while investing much less time thinking about their new identity. So if you want to start your own business, but your full-time job causes you to spend forty plus hours per week thinking of yourself as an employee, it will be tough to make the shift.
This process can work with many other kinds of changes too. If your environment is reinforcing an identity you’re ready to shed, how can you change it? A few little changes won’t be enough to overcome inertia. But if you can keep building those changes so that you shift more and more of your environment to your new role, that probably will work. You’ll shift the balance of your thoughts from affirming your new identity only 5% to pushing it to 50% and beyond. Many people get started on this process, but they do not take it far enough to see results.
Look around your home and ask yourself objectively, “What kind of person lives here?” If you did not know who lived here, what would you conclude about the inhabitant? Do the same for your office: “What kind of person would work here?” Then make a list of the six people with whom you spend the most time, and ask, “What kind of person would associate with these people?” Are your answers to these objective questions congruent with the kind of person you want to be? If not, then what kind of environment would that person have? What kind of friends? And how can you begin gradually shifting your environment towards the new one? Maybe you can’t immediately get a whole new house or a new job, but what little things can you change right now which will start you moving in that direction?
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